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Posted by: Lucy Alex Irving Posts: 2 - Joined: Tue Sep 25th, 2012 07:53 pm

#347 - by Lucy Alex Irving >> Tue Sep 25th, 2012 08:17 pm

I lost my Georgie on the 19th of August due to an accident and then my Blossom on the 20th of September to an illness that was apparently progressive but we didn't know about. I am finding it diffcult to cope as family. I was recommended this website from a vet and it is odd as Ralph is the picture of George! I was curious if anyone could offer any help as I find many people don't understand.

Posted by: Admin Posts: 60 - Joined: Wed Jun 8th, 2011 01:05 am

#349 - by Admin >> Wed Sep 26th, 2012 03:17 pm

Sarah Sorrell-Ashford writes on Facebook:

"I really feel for [you] and the only thing I can say...is don't be afraid to do silly things if it makes u feel any relief from the pain. For example, last night I felt as if I just couldn't cope with the loss of my cat puffy, so I snuck downstairs and fell asleep cuddled up to his little wooden box of ashes. It may sound stupid to some ppl and more than a little bit weird, but it helped a tiny bit with the grief. Wishing [you] all the best and know that all of us on this forum are with [you] and are thinking of [you] xxxx"
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Posted by: Judith Clemerson Posts: 1 - Joined: Wed Sep 26th, 2012 03:55 pm

#350 - by Judith Clemerson >> Wed Sep 26th, 2012 04:31 pm

Hi Lucy

Firstly let me say how sorry I am for your losses of Georgie and Blossom - RIP little ones x

My Story - in my old family of 5 cats i lost 2 sets of 2 cats in 10 weeks of each other both times and it is very hard. I found this site only recently and I have had a horrendous week with my new "famous five" family. I loss my darling Kitty last Wednesday to cancer and whilst we were out at the vets for her final trip, our new kitten Belle who we have had 3 months today got hit by a cat. To top the lot 2 kittens i got from the shelter on 15 th September have been very ill - one have dental surgery last Friday poor mite and they have both got diahhrea and sickness now that the vet can't clear up on one of them. It feels like I must have done something bad in a previous life that all my poor kitties to have to suffer now. However I digress.

Last week the overwhelming comments of love support and kindness I received from all the like minded people on the site help to get me through it. Belle luckily has survived with 3 breaks in her pelvis and a tail that will be amputated on Friday - but who cares about a tail - Manx cats don't worry as the vet said.....! She will need to have about 6 weeks of cage rest for the pelvis to knit back together again but I am determined that myself and my husband Richard who is also on the site will get her through it.

Cat leave paw prints on your heart that can never be taken away. They all have their own unique personality - that's why we love 'em.

For weeks or months you will walk into a room and think that they are still there or hear a little meow - this is there way of being "little angels" to watch over you.

Don't be afraid to cry and don't let anyone tell you the old favourite "it was only a cat". As my vet always says " cats are little people with fur coats on".

If only most people were like our furry friends, then the world would be a much better/ nicer place!

I was lucky enough to still have one cat left of my original famous five at this time and she was on her own for a couple of months. However the vets telephoned one day and asked if we could take on another kitten that had been brought to the surgery that a local lady had found. This became our little Franki and she is a joy to live with.

You never replace, but you just get other, different furry friends that can make you smile and cheer you up on the bad days.

The best thing i have ever read apart from over the rainbow bridge poem is the cats living will. I think you will probably be able to track it down on the internet somewhere.

The thing that is most poignant the cats says that the best thing you can do in there honour of their wonderful lives with you is to take on another kitty who desperately needs a furrever home, so that one of their friends can benefit from their loss. It is just so sweet and touching.

Sorry i have gone on far too much, but just remember the happy memories of Georgie and Blossom. I know you lost Georgie to an unforutnate accident, but be happy to think that Blossom didn't suffer like some people do. I feel wicked about my Kitty last week as we had to do the kind thing only 2 weeks after her cancer was diagnosed, but at least now your 2 girls can play with all their other furry sisters "over the rainbow bridge".

Take care

Love Judi xxxx



Posted by: Penny Hudson Posts: 155 - Joined: Tue Mar 13th, 2012 03:35 pm

#351 - by Penny Hudson >> Wed Sep 26th, 2012 04:59 pm

Dear Lucy, I am so sorry for the sadness you have had in the last few weeks losing 2 precious furry babies. I lost my darling cat Toffee to cancer in December, and understand how you are feeling. Grief for me has gone through many stages, and is still very raw. I find comfort in photos around the house, and she is buried in the garden under the garden seat, with a little brass memorial plaque in her memory. The area is covered in pink and white flowers - so pretty as she was. I sit there and talk to her In the beginning friends were very sympathetic, but as time goes on she is not mentioned so much by them.

We still have her basket of toys, exactly where they always were - and have no intention of moving them. I do not feel ready to have another cat, and may never have another one. I feel guilty that I feel this way - time will tell. I do enjoy looking after and feeding a neighbour's cat when she goes away. but am not ready to fill my life with one of my own.

This site is wonderful and we all share one another's sadness and help one another get through such times of sadness. Take care Lucy - we are all here for you. RIP Georgie and Blossom - xx always in your heart Lucy xx
Posted by: Stella Maria Posts: 1 - Joined: Wed Apr 11th, 2012 06:35 pm

#352 - by Stella Maria >> Wed Sep 26th, 2012 05:59 pm

dear lucy,so sorry to hear of the loss of your 2 precious fur babies.i have lost 3 of my darlings this year so i know how you are feeling.the pain is immense,but u will get through it,all but slowly.i have created a memorial garden for my fur babies and when i am feeling sad and miss them i go and sit by it and talk to them.its my way of still being close to them.maybe this might help .you.don,t be afraid to cry,because they were apart of your family and well loved and will never be forgotten.try and read rainbow bridge and my forever pet,they are beautiful poems.they will make you cry even more,but do sum up how you feel when you lose a beloved pet/pets.they will always have a small part in your heart,that will never go away.take care lucy and sleep well georgie and blossom.xx

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