how do you know when the time is right

Posted by: Rio Posts: 6 - Joined: Thu Dec 13th, 2012 02:48 pm

#443 - by Rio >> Sun Jan 6th, 2013 05:35 pm

Hi everyone, Sheba has gone from bad to worse, the vet said it's time to let her go and we have an appointment for wednesday 9th. I havent been able to think of anything else for the last few days. I am totally heartbroken and still watching to see if she is showing any signs of improving. We now have to hand feed her boiled chicken as she is no longer able to eat from her bowl. She stays in her bed most of the day but doesnt seem to be sleeping much possibly because she is too uncomfortable. I am absolutely dreading wednesday and the thought of taking her to the vet for the last time, she still goes or her daily walk and I am torn between wondering if I am doing the right thing even though I know in my heart there is nothing else I can do
Rio
Posted by: Lucy Ann Wilson Posts: 1 - Joined: Sun Jan 6th, 2013 06:29 pm

#444 - by Lucy Ann Wilson >> Sun Jan 6th, 2013 06:33 pm

You just know Rio, that's the only way I can put it. You look into those trusting eyes, and you know that you have to do that one awful, final, kindness for your beloved friend. It's never esay, you never stop questioning your decision-whenever you make it-but, if you listen to your heart and to Shebas' you WILL know when the time comes. Sending love to Sheba and strength to you x
Posted by: Rio Posts: 6 - Joined: Thu Dec 13th, 2012 02:48 pm

#447 - by Rio >> Mon Jan 7th, 2013 05:17 pm

Thanks Lucy Ann, I think there was too much time between vets appointments, I have had too long to think, I have cried buckets and just wish it was all over at least then I can start to grieve. She is lying beside me as I type (she is never far away from me) I still feel like I am planning some awful deed behind her back.
Rio
Posted by: Caroline Cruise Posts: 9 - Joined: Sat Jan 5th, 2013 12:54 pm

#450 - by Caroline Cruise >> Mon Jan 7th, 2013 06:10 pm

I had my cat pts on Friday . I understand what u r going through. I felt after 14 years of pampering and looking after him so well I was betraying him, I had to wait 3 days and it was absolute HE'LL his last meal, last night, last cuddle, etc

Just wanted to say your feelings are normal it is traumatic but you are right once over you can start coming to terms with it.... Hugs to you both x x
Posted by: Ann-Marie Matthews Posts: 2 - Joined: Tue Jan 8th, 2013 11:33 am

#452 - by Ann-Marie Matthews >> Tue Jan 8th, 2013 11:40 am

I know exactly how you are feeling, I had to have my gorgeous doggy Sally pts on sunday and I feel so lost, so empty, and so heartbroken I feel as though I could just die (if for no other reason than so I could be with her again).

I have been grieving for the imminent loss of her for several months as she was diagnosed with congestive heart failure at the end of march last year and expected to have her for only a few months (and was so lucky that she was around for much longer than expected) but then 4 weeks ago I found lumps in her throat and took her straight in to be told the awful news that I was expecting, she had lymphoma, and it is that vile disease that finally took her from me - right to the end she was a fighter and finally on sunday the disease caused her legs to swell so although she still had so much of her spirit (and was still eating) her body was failing her and she could not walk.

I will relive that day for forever and wish that she was still here with me as I miss her more than I could ever have imagined possible :o(

My heart goes out to you xxx xxx xxx


Posted by: Natasha Davies Posts: 2 - Joined: Tue Jan 8th, 2013 02:09 pm

#455 - by Natasha Davies >> Tue Jan 8th, 2013 02:27 pm

I have just made my own post about having our cat pts on Thursday. I like you was dreading the vet visit and on the day of the visit she suddenly deteriorated so it made the decision easy. All I can say in comfort is that her breathing had been rapid for a while and I have a clear memory of her finally looking restful after they had done it. Unless you feel your cat has a good quality of life you will be doing the right thing. The vets know what they are doing and will try to help if they think it is best for your cat, so their guidance is important. Don't ever think you will be doing the wrong thing. The fact that you are giving it so much thought shows that you are a doting pet owner and will only make the kindest decision for your beloved cat.

I cried the whole day before the appointment, and am still crying now, but I am hoping it will pass.
xxxx
Posted by: Rio Posts: 6 - Joined: Thu Dec 13th, 2012 02:48 pm

#457 - by Rio >> Tue Jan 8th, 2013 06:20 pm

Thank you everyone. Today is our last day toghether. We went to the park and I managed to get sheba to eat a bit of chicken. Some of my family and friends have been dropping in to say goodbye to Sheba, the ones who havent seen her for awhile couldnt believe how sad she looked. I'm trying so hard to keep it together. As I said in a previous post, we lost our sixteen year old cat in October. The house will seem so empty after tomorrow
Rio
Posted by: Fiona Posts: 30 - Joined: Sun Jan 15th, 2012 07:34 pm

#458 - by Fiona >> Tue Jan 8th, 2013 11:27 pm

Hi Rio

My heart goes out to you and Sheba. I had to pts my gorgeous 6 year old boy Louis 14 months ago and as I write this now tears are rolling down my cheeks. Never a day goes by when I don't shed a tear for him. I miss him terribly. Be strong for Sheba, if you love them enough, which I'm sure you do, you need to know when to let them go.

Sending angels and love to you both.

Fiona xx
Fiona
Posted by: Rob McHale Posts: 10 - Joined: Mon Apr 21st, 2014 06:23 pm

#595 - by Rob McHale >> Tue Apr 22nd, 2014 11:22 pm

Hi Rio,
You made a brave decision when it had to be made. I just had to do it myself just 2 days ago.
It is not right to have them suffer. They can't talk about their pain. You made the decision from the heart guided by a greater being whispering in your ear.
Rob

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