The material below is taken from What's Your Grief? blog:

"The idea of a grief timeline is somewhat of a misnomer. Anyone familiar with grief understands that associated feelings, setbacks, breakthroughs, roadblocks, triggers, and resolutions can occur at unexpected, unpredictable and inexplicable times and durations.

Grief is not a race with a start and finish line, it’s a labyrinth with twists and turns and dead ends. Grief is like trying to swim past the break in the ocean – you wade in but every once in a while a wave comes up and knocks you back a few feet. You’re still deeper than when you started, but not as deep as you were before the wave hit. How long will it take you to get past the break? It depends on your strength, the ocean, the tide and the weather.

Grief cannot be mapped on a timeline, although ‘Normal Grief’ should be negatively correlated with time. This means the more time that passes, the less extreme and agonizing grief feelings should be. There will still be bad days, but overall it’s average intensity will diminish. It looks a little something like this…

Grief timeline

So feelings of grief will diminish, but not disappear. Grief is infinitas which means ‘being without finish’. Grief doesn’t end, but with time it should look different – more peaceful, hopeful, constructive and positive.

Here are a few small indicators you might be making progress in your grief. I find it important to note, you can take steps forward, yet still grieve your loved one...The capacity you have to be happy, enjoy life, and love others exists in addition to the love you feel for your deceased loved ones. Because love…love is infinitas.

  • You start to feel ‘normal’
  • You have more good days than bad
  • You experience an increase in energy and motivation
  • You remember memories fondly as opposed to experiencing them as grief triggers
  • You can constructively think about the loss of your loved one and the impact it’s had on your life
  • Your Sleep patterns return to normal
  • You experience feelings of optimism about the future
  • Improvement in performance at work
  • You’re able to focus on personal health and wellbeing
  • Your relationships feel more functional and healthy
  • You feel as though you are ‘rejoining the human race’
  • You feel ready to get out of the house
  • You experience an increase in desire for emotional and physical intimacy"