It's YOUR Grief
Losing a loved one is devastating.
It seems obvious to say, and yet so often society and well-meaning friends assume that we are following a predictable and understandable process of grieving. There is no 'right' way to react or feel following the loss of a much-loved pet, and it's impossible to know how you will feel in advance. Preparing for an inevitable end is no easier than experiencing a sudden loss.
People may say to you: "it's only a pet" or "but it's been ages now", as if there is an acceptable time to feel bad, and after that point you simply have to switch off and move on.
You might find it comforting to keep a photograph or a memento of your pet with you at all times.
You might feel that you don't want your pet's ashes returning.
You might find it helpful to read the experiences of others who are going through the same emotions as you. The Ralph Site public Facebook page and private Facebook group offer non-judgemental spaces to offer advice, ask for support or simply to share memories of a wonderful companion.
Of course, there is no website or blog that can take away the pain of loss, but there is comfort to found in the knowledge that you are not alone, that it's OK to feel how you are feeling.